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25Jul/100

Find Shortcuts To Happiness

Find Shortcuts To Happiness

If someone said you could feel inner peace and joy by just deciding to do it, would you believe them? Well, we're telling you just that! Anyone can choose inner comfort, ease or a feeling of well-being by learning simple tools that will teach you how to make these decisions. Here's a taste of one of the 6 Shortcuts To Happiness we teach at The Option Institute and how you can begin to use it now:Being GratefulTake a few moments to sit with your eyes closed and find a quiet place inside yourself. As you do this, begin to breathe in an easy manner. Now think of one person that you feel particularly grateful to have in your life. As you think of this person, bring to mind all the reasons why you appreciate this person, and as you do, notice how you feel. Then gently open your eyes and pick one object that is in your line of vision. Pick anything. Think of all the reasons you feel grateful to have this object. See if you can make your gratitude really big. Now look outside and decide to be grateful for something you see. Can you make your gratitude for this item huge? Notice how you feel as you do this.We can delight, enjoy and appreciate the wonder of the world around us just by deciding. Gratitude can now be your way to short circuit discomfort, pain and fear and help you to make the decision to choose inner comfort and peace of mind.About The AuthorBeverly Haberman, Certified Option Process Mentor/Counselor and Teacher/Trainer.Currently teaching at The Option Institute ( http://www.option.org )Practicing The Option Process for 12 years.Director of Outreach Associates Network.

24Jul/100

Stop Sickies and Make People Happy At Work

Stop Sickies and Make People Happy At Work

If you're an employer or a manager then work place absence
is costing you money, inconvenience, and upsetting your
customers. And as we all know, not all days taken off work
are due to genuine sickness. Many employees "take a sickie"
because their morale is low and they just don't like or
can't do their work.The challenge for employers and managers is to make people
happier at work. And if people are happy at work then they
are less likely to take a day off every time they wake up
with a stuffy nose. Some bosses think that paying more
money, improving job security or working conditions is the
answer. It isn't and it's also something that can be very
hard to achieve.People who employ or supervise other people need to become
more tuned to their employees' emotional needs and find out
what really motivates them. This is also much easier to
achieve than paying more money or improving job security,
however there is no quick fix. Some years ago I inherited a
tele-sales operation with low staff morale and poor sales
results. It took nearly a year to fix. The long-term
benefits were of course worth it in terms of fewer days lost
due to sickness and an increase in business.To reduce the number of sickies there are four steps you
need to consider. Firstly, pick the right person for the
job. There's a television advertisement running at present
for a recruitment company. It highlights the fact that many
people are in the wrong job for their skills and attributes.
The daft thing is that it was an employer or manager who
put
them in the job in the first place. We need to get better at
interviewing and selecting people. Take more time over it;
pay more attention to the applicant's human side rather than
their qualifications or experience. Get to know them
better.Find out what makes them happy, how well they get on with
other people and how much energy and enthusiasm they have.
Make sure they know what they're getting into and be sure
the job suits them.A manager in the telecom industry was telling me about an
engineer who was taking too many sickies. He was being
blamed for a poor attitude to his work. His job involved
working in tunnels under the city repairing and installing
equipment. Eventually it was discovered that the poor guy
was claustrophobic and was trying to deal with it on his
own. He still works for the same team but in a job that
doesn't involve small spaces. It's not always easy to move
people, which emphasises the importance of getting it right
in the first place.Secondly, you need to believe in your people. If you've
interviewed well and picked the right person for the job
then you need to trust them to do that job. You need to
constantly demonstrate to your people that you trust and
believe in them by what you say, your tone of voice and your
body language. If you believe that your people are not to
be
trusted, that they're unable to make a decision without
checking with you. That they'll turn up late and go home
early, then that's exactly what they'll do. If on the other
hand you believe that they'll do their job well, that they
can be trusted to make decisions and they will give you a
fair day's work, then it is more likely this is what you'll
get. As with all theories there is no guarantee that it will
work every time, however the majority of employees are
reasonable people and if you treat them as such then they
are more likely to behave in a positive manner.The third and probably the most important thing you can do
to motivate your people is to give them feedback and coach
them. This is where so many employers and managers fall down
in dealing with their people; we are hopeless at giving
feedback. Many managers are uncomfortable telling staff how
they feel about their work performance.Most employees want to know how they are performing in their
job; they want to know if they are doing it right or how
they could do it better. If you really want to motivate your
people then you need to give them feedback on what they're
doing well and what needs improvement.When you notice an employee doing something you do like,
tell them about it. When you notice something you don't
like, tell them about it.
Do it as soon as possible. Acknowledging a job well done is
not much good six months later. Also, if you don't
immediately call someone's attention to something you're not
happy about, then they'll assume its okay. Either that or
they'll think you didn't notice or you don't care. Do it in
private. Why is it some managers still feel its okay to
reprimand someone in front of their colleagues? Even the
mildest rebuke can have a negative effect on morale.When you do speak to the person use "I" messages. Say things
like "I liked the way you did that" or "I'm unhappy with
the
way your reports are always late and I'd like your views on
why this is". Avoid "You" messages such as "You're doing
great". That can come across as patronising or insincere.
"You're doing that all wrong" may cause conflict, lower
morale and may not sort the problem.Focus on one or two things. Don't run off a whole list of
attributes or misdemeanours. Also be specific about job
behaviour, focus on what the person did or didn't do,
don't make a personal attack.Employees will feel happier if they perceive their
employer or manager as a reasonable and fair individual -
someone who is quick to praise but also says when they're
not happy about something.When we start to look at what motivates people at work, it's
important to realise that we all have different needs. It's
easy to fall into the trap of believing that all our staff
are motivated by money. However, research conducted over the
years into what motivates people at work suggests some
other factors.Money is important however people are more likely to be
motivated firstly, by the work itself. Secondly, by being
appreciated for what they do and thirdly by a feeling of
being in on things.The message is - if you want motivated staff then make their
work interesting, give them feedback and give them the
feeling that they're involved in the business.We can make the job more interesting by giving people more
responsibility, assigning projects and by training and
developing them. We need to regularly give people feedback
on how they're doing; focussing on what they're doing well
rather than on what is not so good. To meet their need to
feel involved we should regularly communicate both formally
and informally. We could also involve staff in meetings they
might not normally attend.These steps will take time and thought however they'll make
a huge difference as to how employees feel about their work.
If they feel good and gain satisfaction from their work
then they're less likely to find a reason to "take a
sickie".Alan Fairweather is the author of four ebooks in the "How
to get More Sales" series. Lots of practical actions you
can take to build your business and motivate your team.-
http://www.howtogetmoresales.com

23Jul/100

How Do You Define Happiness?

How Do You Define Happiness?

I ran a contest in "Your Daily Dose of Happiness" to see how people define happiness. I was stunned to discover that I am the only person who defines happiness as an extra helping of cheesecake.There were other shockers, too.We know that money can't buy happiness ... except, of course, when we are flat broke. But I figured several people would define happiness, at least in part, as a bulging bank vault or "financial freedom". Just three people cited money in their definitions of happiness.I also figured many people would cite health as part of their definition of happiness, as in "health, wealth, and happiness". But only four people mentioned health.No health? No wealth? How do people define happiness?The top rated mention goes to family. It seems that we might be flat broke and deathly ill, but a loving family will make us happy just the same.Altruism and kindness are also key. It seems we smile by making others smile. Isn't that nice? No health and no wealth. Just smile.Faith scores big, too. This works out very well, because we can ask our loving family to pray for a speedy recovery and a big win in El Gordo next month (assuming we recover first).What does this mean? It means the spammers have it all wrong. They keep sending us useless emails about making money.A typical spam message says, "Get the insider secrets to making millions on the Internet. I will give you these valuable secrets for peanuts just because I love your smile so much. You could make $5,433 in the next hour if you act now. Hurry. Don't wait. This is the real thing. You can trust me. All the others are just scammers."Instead, spammers should be sending offers like, "Get the insider secret to building a loving family on the Internet. I will give you these valuable secrets for peanuts (and a big virtual hug) just because I love your smile so much. You could love your kids, spouses, uncles, parents, pets ? anybody! ? in the next hour if you act now. Hurry. Don't wait. This is the real thing. You can trust me. All the others are just family planners."Spammers also waste emails on replacing body parts we never had and enhancing body parts we could never have, when what we really want is to know God better.Here is a typical spammer email: "Hair loss? We just released the miracle cure. Grow your hair back thicker than a wooly mammoth preparing for the next ice age. This is worth a gazillion dollars, but you get it free for just pennies a day. Give me your credit card number before midnight tonight. I can't afford to offer this price for long. Beware phony products that drip funny colors in your face or make hair grow in all the wrong places. This is the real thing!"Instead, spammers should be saying: "Faithless? Book your luncheon with the Pope, dinner with the Dalai Lama and a one-on-one chat with Moses. Reserve your seat free for just a handful of pennies. Give me your credit card number before midnight tonight. Act now. I can't afford to offer this price for long. Beware phony reservations for meetings with Michael Jackson and other fake gods. This is the real thing!"By the way, Mother Nature was also a part of many definitions of happiness. So take your family down by the river for a prayer. And if you can lend a helping hand to a chipmunk or a duck, you'll be the perfect definition of happiness.About The AuthorThe author is David Leonhardt, The Happy Guy. To receive his column weekly in your inbox, sign up at http://TheHappyGuy.com/positive-thinking-free-ezine.html . For how others define happiness: http://TheHappyGuy.com/define-happiness.html. Visit his home page at http://TheHappyGuy.com.Info@TheHappyGuy.com